The values of today’s society have relegated discipline to the background. Today this characteristic is wrongly associated with a restrictive practice of personal liberties; even being described as authoritarian and repressive behavior.
Adolescence can be a difficult stage for parents, children are in a somewhat “rebellious” stage. They are searching for their identity and constantly challenge parents in many cases. It is easier to discipline young children than adolescents, so it is important to have good discipline at home since children are young. A tantrum with 3 years is not the same as with 15.
Parents’ task is to guide children to learn to exercise discipline in their lives. Games, sports, art and outdoor activities are some of the possibilities to achieve this.
Discipline by definition is being on time for homework. Being able to fulfill obligations at the right time. In this way, the control of emotions and attitudes is acquired without the need for external surveillance and control, since each person is responsible for their own actions.
How is discipline promoted in adolescence?
Discipline is an exercise, a daily exercise. Its mission is the formation of good habits and personal rules that allow the maximum development of human potential to be achieved.
This exercise should be done daily, constantly. It is a mental training that requires all our work and commitment. Being able to develop it in early adolescence, allows reaching adulthood in a better way, facing the changes and the commitments that growth entails, in a positive way.
Teach the true value of time, do things without pause, but without haste; develop patience to achieve wishes and goals, learn to check things twice. Having an attitude of permanent evaluation with everything that is undertaken, planning activities in time to avoid unforeseen events and developing tasks with attention and concentration are some of the examples for exercising the discipline.
Physical sanctions and punishments are not part of discipline training. These negative reinforcements only serve to maintain the erroneous view that society has regarding disciplinary value. The methods to achieve it are other, among which the importance of: The role of parents is to be guides for their children.
A disciplined person speaks for himself. Your ability to organize time and distribute it according to the activities you must perform are synonymous with guarantee and credibility with others. For them, commitment is not a burden, because their correct organization of time allows them to accept only those things that they are capable of doing.
Living life in a disciplined way is not synonymous with living it in a boring way, on the contrary it will be the guarantee to use the days well, not waste energy on unnecessary matters and achieve goals without making them seem unattainable.
To strengthen self-discipline, it must be taken into account that:
- The tasks to be carried out are the sole responsibility. No one can do them for teenagers.
- The organization of the agenda is very important since this allows control over the desired results.
- Teaching to be mindful of the objective they are pursuing is a motivator that will give impetus to what they are going to do.
- Always think about the success and success of the activities. This will avoid the feeling of defeat and feed the constancy.
- Social life is important. It is not valid to isolate yourself, it is necessary to create good bonds of trust and companionship.
- Take moments to rest during homework.
- The practice of some sport or artistic activity allows us to develop commitment and a sense of belonging and teaches us to meet schedules and goals as a group.